Love Relationship Basics

Other than certain single-cell organisms, the majority of creatures inhabiting this earth continue their existence through male-female interaction. This means there are some 'love relationship basics' to pay attention to ... some rules, one might say!

Our society is largely responsible for the difficulties so many people face. Chief among our societal problems is the breakdown of the family unit. Many children, nowadays, grow up having no real point of reference concerning what a family is. Others grow up without the full measure of parental nurturing and guidance because both parents must work just to provide just the basic necessities of life! And we’ve all heard of parents abusing their own offspring while venting their frustration, disappointment, insecurities and anger over the state of their own lives.

Some men, threatened by the new powers of self-determination women have, resort to physical and/or mental violence to control them. Conversely, there are also women who feel so competitive toward men they feel compelled to manipulate and/or control those they’re involved with. The list could go on and on.

The good news is that the people and situations illustrated above are actually not in the majority -- they’re simply more visible, and therefore more focused on and talked about. Unfortunately, that means we are literally bombarded with negativity where relationships are concerned, and whether we like it or not, it has an undermining effect on each of us to one degree or another.

The outcome is a negative experience which is deemed consistent with all we’ve heard, and from that we develop attitudes which can be very difficult to change later on.

Most of us are quite willing to enter into a faithful, supportive relationship. The difficult parts are getting past our fears of failure, past experiences and finding that right person of course! The right person can do a whole lot toward healing our fears and old hurts. The search for Mr. or Ms. Right isn’t really isn’t as much a matter of searching through a lot of quantity, as it is a matter of being intelligently selective in accordance with our own values, needs, desires, and aspirations.

The bottom line is this: there are many people who are truly unaware of what a close relationship feels like, and therefore can’t really know what to look for, for themselves, or even what they, themselves, are able to contribute to one. Establishing these things is a matter of first being aware of what could be, and then a process of honest introspection to determine the answers to those questions.

These aren’t ‘bad’ people, just people who, as with all of us, are the result of their own life’s experiences. Often they’ve endured one disappointment after another which has only served to compound the negative things they’ve learned to believe. It’s got to be a tough position to be in knowing something is missing in your life, yet being unable, or too afraid, to recognize what it is and not be able to comprehend why happiness seems so elusive.

It’s not the easiest thing to find what you want; but with patience, self respect, and some good old common sense, it is possible. Considering the major role a partner plays in our lives, it should only make sense to carefully select who that person will be.

I hope this small book will help you on your way to finding that one special person with whom life can be such a wonderful and fulfilling adventure.