Furthermore, in any situation where
two people are closely associated with one another, there will be times when
one or the other has a grievance. If those grievances are not communicated,
they will build up inside, and eventually turn into a much larger problem than
need be. It will be a relief to both of you to have it out of the way. It can
never be asserted strongly enough that communication is vitally important at
all stages & times.
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Regard ongoing communication as
a `pressure release valve’ -- there to ensure things don’t get out of hand
where they need not. You and your partner may want to set time aside
periodically for this purpose -- especially when the relationship is still
relatively new to both of you. It will always be a learning process.
Letting things build up inside
will cause both of you to become more self-occupied, and therefore less
aware and appreciative of each other. This negative situation is always a
fertile breeding ground for unnecessary and destructive stress. |
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Stress is deadly. It creates isolation,
tensions, misunderstandings, quick tempers, and possibly even health problems.
Anything you can do to reduce or eliminate it should be done. Here is a trick
I’ve learned: Go out of your way to do something extra special for your partner.
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Doing so will focus your attention on something positive, and your partner’s response
will break the ice for a gentle discussion about the problem. Then all you have
to do is resolve it -- which will be much easier with both of you on the same
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Although people can sense tension
in someone they’re close to, they cannot `read minds’. Avoiding the issue, hoping
it will blow over, is an unrealistic approach to a solution. You must speak
to communicate, and the sooner you do, the sooner you’ll be enjoying the rewards
of being together -- instead of enduring the stress of isolated silence.
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