No one does
anything ‘wrong’
.
We all have different perceptions of the world
based on individually unique life experiences. In other words, every
person will believe they are doing the right thing in accordance with that
unique view on life. Attempting to resolve differences based on individual
perceptions alone is a difficult and often divisive process. Understanding
and reasonable compromise will work much better.
We live in a
‘relative world’.
Opposites can coexist nicely provided both
parties are willing to look at a wider range of possibilities and
concepts. Narrow thinking is exclusionary and selfish … whereas an open
minded is inclusive, loving and a demonstration that the collective good
is more important than jealously protecting rigid personal paradigms.
Attempting to
control another person only results in anger and resentment.
Anything someone feels pushed, compelled or
forced to do will meet with resistance. A person will resist in either
passive or aggressive modes. The aggressive response is anger or perhaps
even violence! Passive resistance will manifest in various ways ranging
from ignoring to resentful submission. Regardless of the scenario
‘control’ is short term, requires constant maintenance and builds a house
of cards.
You create your experience
with another person based on fixed beliefs or experience.
When you fix your mind on a certain thought,
particularly about outcomes, you will most often cause it to come true. If
you relate to someone with suspicion or fear due to a past relationship
you will convey that sub-verbally and create problems. The best thing you
can do is give each situation its own chance and not make it pay a price
for past problems or disappointments.
The Law of Attraction.
Your beliefs and feelings about
relationships will attract experiences that reflect the same beliefs and
feelings. If you believe in negativity, mistrust or abuse, you will
attract that in one form or another. Conversely, focus on happy thoughts
about relationships and yourself and you will inevitably attract someone
who reflects those positive feeling back to you.
The Law of Allowing.
Similar to controlling but in reverse. You
take a lot of pressure off yourself and your significant other if you
allow them to be themselves and love them for who and what they are in
their natural state. This freedom opens the door for spontaneity and many
fun, happy and memorable moments will follow that would never have
happened otherwise.
