Relationships that Begin with Undue Suspicion |
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Relationships that begin with undue suspicion and wariness are normally short lived on account of the resulting tension between the two people. No two human beings are exactly alike regardless of any apparent similarities which may exist ...so why start out making someone else pay for another person's deeds? |
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However, all human beings will make a mistake at times. A mistake is not an intentional wrong. The difference between intentional and unintentional actions must always be recognized. All anyone can do is apologize for a mistake, and make every effort to not make the same one again. If an event which hurt was something intentional, then "AH HA" is warranted, and after a few of those it would certainly be wise to give the whole relationship serious reconsideration. A mistake, however, is a signal to communicate -- not persecute and should not evoke unwarranted suspicion.
You can use it as a reliable way of ascertaining how to react to any given event in the future. Give your partner the same latitude to be an imperfect human being as you would expect for yourself. Remember; BALANCE can only be achieved through equal give and take. Partners must learn to understand one another. It’s crucial to a happy and peaceful relationship. Most handicaps people have dealing with one another are the result or extension of fears -- fears of being hurt, used, taken advantage of, or abused in some way. Those fears were born in past events (experiences) which have modified the manner in which we instinctively react to situations and other people.
If you’re aware of, and understand, the fears your partner may have, you will have taken a major step toward a better relationship overall -- a relationship with far better prospects for long term success and happiness. If you can understand WHY a person acts a certain way, it’s always much easier to determine the issue of intent; thereby reducing your "AH HA" tendency where it’s not warranted. You will learn to control your own fears and not be so subject to them, and they will fade, being replaced by newer, more pleasant memories over time. Next Page >>
Understanding Each Other |
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Relationships that Begin with Undue Suspicion