When You Mention "Romance"

When you mention "romance", most people will immediately conjure up thoughts and images of champagne in crystal flutes, moonlight walks on deserted beaches, tuxedos and evening gowns, candlelight dinners in chic bistros, eloquent poetry, bouquets of roses, daring deeds, and so on.

Is it any wonder romance can fade once the relationship has been established? If those things are the stuff of romance; it would be a very expensive and time consuming thing to do on any regular basis.

Both these things would come as pleasant and intimate surprises at an unexpected time -- best of all; they’re such simple little things to do! He could quietly do the supper dishes while she’s putting the children to bed, or occupied elsewhere in the house; she could have a hot bath drawn for him, after he’s had a trying day, to soak in before supper.

Something else you may want to institute is an `idea jar’. The idea here is to have an actual jar somewhere, and every time you think of something fun or romantic to do together, write it down and place it in the jar. These ideas may come to you as you’re cleaning the kitchen, mowing the lawn, or at any other time your mind may wander upon your mate. So, on the next occasion when you’re at a loss for something to do together, randomly pick one of the ideas from the jar.

Also, this could be a great healing mechanism for those times you’ve had a disagreement. Make a pact with each other that at such times, once you’ve talked things through to a resolution, you’ll immediately pick one of the ideas to act upon. There can be no doubt that when you read the idea together, the `writer’ will be in mind of the good feelings when the idea was written, and the other will have a demonstrable example of the ‘writer’s’ thoughts about them.

This will go a long way toward healing the rift, and strengthening the relationship again. The element of `romance’ is once again present on account of the thoughts possessed for each other.