Your Sex Life is Very Important
Your Sex Life is Very Important
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Your sex life is very important, but the relationship should never hinge
upon or revolve around it exclusively. Sex is much better where there
is a solid foundation of love, trust, and respect underneath.
There's an old expression that says "90% of great sex is between the
ears"! Now before you say "ya sure" ...talk to someone who knows
about Tantric sex!
It only follows that with those underpinnings in place, both will be far
more sensitive to their partner’s needs. Everyone’s body is different;
therefore different people will be physically stimulated in different ways.
Without trust, it’s most difficult to share those personal and individual
preferences and/or needs.
Love introduces gentleness and consideration into the act of making
love (now we are talking about sex). Respect eliminates selfishness in
the act, and allows a person to say "I don’t feel like it" without incurring
guilt or resentment. Making love is an opportunity for you to share a
special closeness which is uniquely and exclusively yours. With a solid
foundation to the relationship, you’ll both feel comfortable trying new
things with each other, and will enjoy more spontaneity too!
Each time you make love, you will add to and reinforce the bond
between you -- creating yet more of those all important "gift wrapped
memories" you may need someday.
As we come to the conclusion of this section we’ll capsulate the
highlights of keeping it together.
• Avoid `ruts’ -- keep up the effort.
• Use romance -- say "I love you" without words; turning ordinary
things into special memories.
• Avoid creating gender & strict 50 - 50 divisions.
• Don’t take your partner for granted
• Use your memory to remind yourself of all which has, and can be
special.
• Be mutually supportive in all respects.
• Toss the "grocery list" and comparisons
• Don’t try to change your partner to fit your personal ideals.
• Communication must be an ongoing element in your relationship.
• Do all you can to offset the growth of stress.
• Do a role reversal occasionally.
• Establish an `idea jar’.
• Make sex a benefit of your relationship ...not a foundation.
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